The first few days after a loved one moves to memory care can be filled with questions, emotions, and uncertainty. For someone with dementia, the unfamiliarity of a new environment can cause anxiety, fear, and confusion. This article walks you through what typically happens during those early days after moving to memory care, so you know what to expect and how to support your loved one through the transition.

Arrival and orientation: What to expect on day one when moving to memory care

Before the move to memory care, make sure to bring familiar items to furnish the room. Decorate with photographs of family members, pictures, plants, or other meaningful objects. Ask staff if there’s anything else that might help make the space feel more like home.

During the first day or two, you may have the opportunity to join your loved one for meals or scheduled activities. Introduce them to staff members and help orient them with shared spaces like the dining room, activity areas, or walking paths. Be prepared to repeat this process, as familiarity can take time.

It’s also helpful to quietly observe interactions between your loved one and staff or other residents. If your loved one becomes upset or frustrated, early intervention and open communication can make a difference.

Care planning and assessments

Each new resident receives a comprehensive care assessment upon arrival. This review is essential for creating a care plan tailored to your loved one’s needs and preferences. You should expect the care planning process to cover:

• Emergency contacts and family relationships.
• Physical health, medication regimen, and mobility needs.
• Cognitive function and communication abilities.
• Personality traits, previous routines, and activity preferences.
• Dietary needs, including allergies or physician-ordered restrictions.
• Safety protocols and staff responsibilities.

Many communities schedule the first formal care plan review within a few weeks. However, if you feel an earlier check-in would be helpful, don’t hesitate to ask.

Emotional responses to expect

This is where things can get tough. Imagine having dementia and transitioning from home to an entirely new environment with unfamiliar people. During the first few days, your loved one may:

• Ask to go home, sometimes repeatedly.
• Become withdrawn or confused.
• Show signs of anxiety or agitation.

Asking to go home can be a common reaction in the early days after a move to senior care. The following can help make the transition a little easier:

• Acknowledging their feelings and asking what “home” means to them. Their response may suggest a desire for comfort or familiarity. These are qualities you can develop over time in their new space at the memory care community.
• Offering gentle reassurance that they’re safe and cared for.
• Avoiding arguments or corrections.
• Redirecting with an activity, snack, or walk.
• Asking staff for help if your loved one becomes distressed.

These emotional responses are normal, and memory care staff are trained to support residents through them.

Establishing a routine

Consistency and routine are key for people with dementia. Familiar routines help reduce confusion and create a sense of security.

Visiting often in the early weeks can provide comfort to your loved one and help you feel more confident in their care. Keep in mind:

• Avoid visiting during activities unless you’re joining in.
• Hold off on off-site trips until your loved one adjusts.
• Bring simple activities to do together, such as looking at photo albums, watching movies, and playing card games.
• Limit visitors to one or two at a time, and monitor noise levels.
• Watch for signs of fatigue, and keep visits short if needed.

Who to talk to about concerns

Concerns may arise, especially in the first few days. You are your loved one’s advocate, and open, respectful communication is key. Here’s how to approach issues:

• Get to know the staff and learn who oversees care (usually a memory care director or nursing supervisor).
• Start with friendly conversations, and show appreciation when you can.
• If needed, document concerns in writing and request a meeting.
• Be specific, stay calm, and focus on solutions.
• If concerns are not resolved, contact your local or state licensing agency.

Supporting your loved one when moving to memory care

Memory care may relieve the physical stress of caregiving, but it can stir up emotions like guilt, sadness, or uncertainty. It’s important to take care of yourself, too. Talk to someone you trust, seek caregiver support, and find moments of quiet reflection. Remember, your role is still vital. You remain the anchor that helps your loved one feel safe and supported.

Senior care facility rules and requirements vary based on company-specific policies and state-level regulations. The content above represents common guidelines but may differ from a particular facility’s policies or requirements. To learn the regulations that apply in your state, contact your local Oasis Senior Advisor.